The month of love went by so fast, can we please have a rewind?? Or may be I should just wait for 11 more months huh!!!! Anyhuu, to wrap up the #ForeverKindaLove series of posts, just a little reminder - Love should be celebrated all day, everyday. Don't wait for that just one day in a year to shower your mpenzi with love. How about some random thoughts/lessons on matters love that I have picked up along this adventure called life :-).
You are on nobody's schedule but your own and you have to relax and allow God to help you figure out exactly what the next step in your relationship is. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself and your partner worrying about the slow/fast progression of your relationship. Some people date for 1 year and feel they are ready to get into marriage whereas others date for 5+ years and still feel they are not ready to get into marriage. Whatever the case, commit everything to God as He is the author of your life and will guide you on exactly what you need to do.
Conflicts in relationships should not spell doom. God often times allows conflict so we can learn resolution. How you handle a conflict can be the thin line that divides the make up/break up for your relationship. Conflicts are a great learning curve for any couple, once you deal with a situation you are able to learn from it and when it comes up any other time you are able to apply lessons learnt and navigate through it successfully.
Life is too precious and too fragile to spend time sulking & dishing out silent treatment as you struggle to figure out who was on the wrong/right and who should crack first. If you love your partner as much as you claim to, swallow your pride and be the bigger person, cede ground and call a truce - even if you are the one who was offended.
"I Am Sorry" needs to faithfully feature in your vocabulary without fail. I know they say it is difficult for men to say they are sorry even when they for sure know they are on the wrong. Ditch this notion and be willing to say sorry when you mess up or even if you are not the one who has messed up but you are sure that saying sorry will diffuse a tense situation.
When you love your partner and are intentional about making your relationship work, say kwaheri to pride. Pray and ask God to grant you wisdom on how to be humble enough to put your partner first. Couldn't have put it any better that John Ruskin, "It is better to lose your pride over someone you love rather than lose someone you love over your useless pride."
Love covers a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8 "Above all, have fervent and unfailing love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins [it overlooks unkindness and unselfishly seeks the best for others]." Avoid getting so caught up in looking at your partner's flaws and shortcomings through a microscope that you forget to enjoy and celebrate their strengths. Please note, I am not saying that you condone unbecoming character from them, rather understand and help them work through it and pray for them and with them.
You are on nobody's schedule but your own and you have to relax and allow God to help you figure out exactly what the next step in your relationship is. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself and your partner worrying about the slow/fast progression of your relationship. Some people date for 1 year and feel they are ready to get into marriage whereas others date for 5+ years and still feel they are not ready to get into marriage. Whatever the case, commit everything to God as He is the author of your life and will guide you on exactly what you need to do.
Conflicts in relationships should not spell doom. God often times allows conflict so we can learn resolution. How you handle a conflict can be the thin line that divides the make up/break up for your relationship. Conflicts are a great learning curve for any couple, once you deal with a situation you are able to learn from it and when it comes up any other time you are able to apply lessons learnt and navigate through it successfully.
Life is too precious and too fragile to spend time sulking & dishing out silent treatment as you struggle to figure out who was on the wrong/right and who should crack first. If you love your partner as much as you claim to, swallow your pride and be the bigger person, cede ground and call a truce - even if you are the one who was offended.
"I Am Sorry" needs to faithfully feature in your vocabulary without fail. I know they say it is difficult for men to say they are sorry even when they for sure know they are on the wrong. Ditch this notion and be willing to say sorry when you mess up or even if you are not the one who has messed up but you are sure that saying sorry will diffuse a tense situation.
When you love your partner and are intentional about making your relationship work, say kwaheri to pride. Pray and ask God to grant you wisdom on how to be humble enough to put your partner first. Couldn't have put it any better that John Ruskin, "It is better to lose your pride over someone you love rather than lose someone you love over your useless pride."
Love covers a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8 "Above all, have fervent and unfailing love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins [it overlooks unkindness and unselfishly seeks the best for others]." Avoid getting so caught up in looking at your partner's flaws and shortcomings through a microscope that you forget to enjoy and celebrate their strengths. Please note, I am not saying that you condone unbecoming character from them, rather understand and help them work through it and pray for them and with them.